Thank you State Farm, for sponsoring today’s post about my awesome family.
So you may have noticed a little bit of a shift around here lately. I haven’t really come out and advertised it, but after a lot of discussion, I did something a little bit crazy. Last month, I quit my day job.
It’s true, that totally happened. Did you ever see the flair scene in Office Space? It was a little bit like that. Ahem. I work from home now, and I’m totally loving it!
It was a big, scary decision, I won’t lie. Kevin and I had been talking it over for a few months, and I kept saying, we can’t afford it, and what if it doesn’t work the way we think it will? But he was so encouraging about it. We will make it work. I really think you deserve this. I don’t know about you, but I have a hard time seeing around my limitations sometimes. It hasn’t been until I met my husband that I started to truly believe what I can do, and not just what I can’t.
So I took the leap. Our expendable income budget is awfully light now, but it’s a great trade for what I get to do. My husband values my happiness, and wants me to do crazy things like chase my dreams. Like ArtPrize 2014 – I made it into the competition this fall! I never would have had the confidence to feel that I could wow a venue with my work if I didn’t have such great encouragement at home.
It used to be my achievements were in spite of pressure. You know, the “I’ll show you that I can do this on my own” thing. I’ve always been achievement-driven, but it’s hard to enjoy when you’re doing it for someone else. But since I met my husband, I’ve gradually adopted the, “look! I did it!” attitude – and that’s what truly launched me into healthy adulthood. Do you have someone in your life like that? I hope you do.
See, despite the fact that he makes me totally crazy sometimes (hey, he has the same number of flaws as the average human being, after all), the number one thing I can say about my husband is that he supports me 100%. And you grow so much as a person when you have someone who believes in you like that. I have never in my life experienced someone who is behind me, no matter what. (Which kind of puts the tiff about the laundry standoff into perspective, too. Ahem.)
So here I am. A mom working at home, with two kids under age 4. I have freaked out some days. Kevin talks me down. I still feel like I’m just taking an extended vacation. But I can’t even explain to you how much better I feel for taking the plunge. One of the things that I always secretly wanted was to be a stay at home mom. So now I’m living the dream, with time to spend with my family.
As I write this, this is what I can hear: my son is laughing hysterically, playing with his dad. My daughter is dancing around in the hallway outside my office, trying to sneak in here without Kevin catching her for about the fifth time. (She keeps asking me if I need anything. I said no, but she left me her favorite blanket anyway. I know it’s just an excuse to be near me, and I’m okay with it.) You know who she got that from? Her dad. Not today, not by suggestion, but by example. And now, I’m not missing it, spending 50 hours of my week at a job I hate. Dreading Mondays. Trying to leave with children attached to my legs, telling me to stay home.
This story is uncharacteristically mushy compared to my typical sarcasm, I know. (I promise, I’ll be back to cracking jokes tomorrow.) But I’m not even embarrassed about it today. I love my family, and I’m thankful for the man who makes me a better person, just by loving me well and encouraging me to follow my passions. It’s more than I thought I was getting when we got married.
I’m about to click “publish” now, so I can go spend time with my favorite people in the world. (Because that’s yet another perk of working at home – a tickle break is so much more energizing than a coffee break!) But let me end on a question, to keep the conversation going: is there someone in your life who has helped you be a better person? Leave me a comment below – let’s celebrate the people who have our backs in the good times and bad!
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