First of all, I don’t claim to be an expert on parenting. Parenting is a thing most of us figure out as we go, and I don’t believe there’s any one right approach to anything. You have to do what works for you. But as I find things that work for us, I like to share in case your kids are at all like mine. We had been struggling with weaning Raya from her pacifier (and were in fact, going in the wrong direction for a while). So I wanted to share our success this morning!
Now… don’t judge… my daughter is 2 1/2 and we JUST got rid of her pacifiers. It started out as a night time soother, and as she got older she got more attached – and in the past few weeks with moving – its had gotten to the point where she wanted it all day long. But there was always a reason we put off taking them away – either we couldn’t afford a few nights of losing sleep for work stuff, house stuff, pregnancy stuff, someone had a cold, we were transitioning another part of life… well, it just became clear that there was never going to be a GOOD time to do it.
A friend of our told us about the pacifier fairy, who – much like the tooth fairy – collects those old pacis and leaves a treat. We finally decided that between the new house and Raya becoming a big sister this month that now was as good a time as any to make it official that she is now a big girl. We had planned to celebrate that milestone with a new bike, and realized that would be a great treat for the fairy to bring.
We talked about it for about a week, we let her look at bikes and helmets to get excited about it, and reminded her when she had her paci that it was going away soon. I even sneaked the last one out of her mouth at 5 am for the fairy to be able to take it – a move that was met with immediate crying in her sleep. So I was doubtful… but IT WORKED. When she woke up in the morning, she stared for a minute and said, “Hey! That’s my bike!” (Yes, I may have been spying on the video monitor, LOL.)
She was SO excited about the bike that we were able to get her on board with the idea that she was growing up and the pacis were a thing of the past now. (And yes, she wears the helmet ALL. THE. TIME.)
Don’t get me wrong – there were plenty of wake-ups in the first few nights. But NOT ONCE has she asked for her pacifier during the day – and in recent weeks, not having it 24/7 was becoming a meltdown issue several times a day. We are still transitioning, but it’s been a great way to get her on board with being a big girl!
I’m so proud of my girl!
Fellow moms – how did you break the pacifier habit? I’d love to hear your tips in the comments!